A solo episode this week as I talk about how to find your motivation or mojo when it’s deserted you.

The constant state of change-adjust-change-meltdown-adjust that we’ve all be experiencing for the last couple of years has taken its toll on our mental resilience.

Not only that but feeling like a human pinball doesn’t leave a lot of room for consistency!

So how do you get your mojo back, find your spark again, and feel like your finally moving forward and making progress?

Listen on to find out!

Transcript
Hayley:

Hi, and welcome to the Fit For Business podcast with me Hayley Field, also known as the Food Ninja.

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I'm here to chat with business owners about their health and how it impacts their business and vice versa. And to share with you all the latest tools, tips and strategies that are working for myself, and my clients, hope you enjoy the episode.

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Hi, everyone, something a little bit different from me this week, she says as though she's a seasoned podcaster has hundreds of episodes out there!

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But I thought I'd do a solo episode today, obviously, at the moment, we've all been through an awful lot, putting it fucking mildly in the last two years.

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So what I'm noticing at the moment with a lot of clients that I'm talking to, people that I'm chatting to on social media is this kind of hangover if you like, of the last two years shitshow basically.

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People are finding it really hard to get going again and return back to normal or just adjust to the fact that you know, the normal that we thought we were getting back isn't that, it's a different kind of normal.

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I think this has really caused a lot of people to lose their health Mojo, if you like cause being consistent with health behaviours, you know, is hard enough as it is without all this shit going on, and without feeling that, you know, you've been battered and bruised and gone 10 rounds with Tyson Fury, which is I think how a lot of us are feeling right now.

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So I'm going to share some top tips with you of how you can hopefully emerge from that and start to feel a little bit like your old self, or dare I say even a new and improved version of yourself.

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First of all, I would say to anyone, don't put pressure on yourself.

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So if you're putting pressure on yourself to be everything to everyone, you know, if you are trying to be an amazing business owner, and a brilliant boss, and a great partner, and a brilliant Mum or Dad, don't put too much pressure on yourself to be all of those things to everyone.

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You don't have to do everything perfectly. If you try and maintain all your healthy habits, for example, you can feel like a big fat fucking failure for not being able to live your best life, right? If you can't do them all.

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But the good thing is if you take action, shit will happen. Right? So don't put pressure on yourself, things are going to happen as long as you're taking action, they don't have to be perfect straight away. So that would be my first top tip.

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Secondly, think about adding stuff in, right. And I know that sounds really fucking weird. Because when you think about being healthy, trying to maybe lose weight or whatever, we often think about the stuff that we must stop doing '

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oh, I've got this really bad habit, I better fuckin stop doing that', you know.

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I must stop procrastinating to be a good business owner, I must stop eating cake to be a healthy person, right?

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That mindset of restriction and lack is a really fucking awful place to be operating from because I think we've had enough of that.

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For the past two years, we've been operating from that place - not being allowed to go out, not being allowed to go to the gym, not being allowed to see your friends.

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Let's not carry that shit on. Add stuff in.

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I know it sounds counterintuitive, because, you know, people are probably going 'oh you need to slow down and do less', but just add more of the good shit.

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You know, instead of thinking about trying to do 20 Gym visits, just add an extra walk into your day. Instead of restricting your food pile your plate high with veggies and like really good stuff, right? Go to bed an hour earlier, drink an extra litre of water. These are all things that you can add in and do more of that aren't going to make you feelrestricted. So that's my second tip.

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And following on from that, really the third tip is enjoy stuff right.

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If you've lost your mojo, you might find it's because you're forcing yourself to do a load of shit stuff that you don't really enjoy. You should really look at things that you really enjoy.

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So for example, exercising is a great thing, isn't it? A lot of us feel like going to the gym is a bit of a chore. we procrastinate we avoid it.

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If you don't like going to the gym, don't fucking do it. Find another medium of exercise that you love.

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Like maybe you like going kayaking, maybe you like hiking, maybe you're not up for any solo fun as it were, and you'd rather do things in a group. That's totally fine.

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I'm talking sport, obviously, you know, go find someone to play tennis with or golf or whatever that might be.

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If salads and smoothies aren't your thing, don't fucking eat them. You don't have to eat rabbit food to be healthy. Research some really delicious recipes, and maybe tweak them to fit with your goals and try them out. Try a new recipe every week, do stuff that you like.

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My next tip, make shit easy. And this is a concept called choice architecture. There is a really cool book called Nudge. I can't fucking remember who it's by. I'm gonna put that in the show notes anyway.

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But it talks about making sure you set your environment up for success to make the healthy choice, the easiest one possible.

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So one of the things that I do is, I'm always I'm really shit at remembering to take my supplements, right? So what I do now - this makes me sound like an old granny.

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I've got you know, those craft pots that you keep like sequins and whatever shit you know, for crafting those little clear plastic pots.

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I put a day's worth of supplements in each of those and they're stacking ones, which is amazing, right. And I leave those next to my kettle so that when I go make my cup of tea first thing in the morning they're there and I remember to take them.

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That makes taking my supplements the easy choice because they're right there next to the kettle first thing in the morning.

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I make sure I fill my water bottle up every night so that I don't just end up drinking tea all day and then think Oh, holy shit, I haven't drunk any fucking water by the time I get to after lunchtime.

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Things like doing an online food shop. That is way easier for me to get you know healthy food in the house by doing an online food shop than it is going out to the supermarket and spending hours.

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I'm a bit of a supermarket tourist to be honest, I fucking love a supermarket. So one week I really want to go to Waitrose. And then next week, I'll be 'oh, let's go to Sainsbury's instead, maybe they've got different stuff'.

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So, you know, I treat it like a bit of an outing, which isn't good when you're a busy business owner. So doing that online shop really helps me not only to save time, but also I don't get drawn into you know, the Buy One Get One Free and end up buying a lot of shit that I don't really need. So it saves me time and it saves me money. And it saves me calories to be honest. So yeah, make stuff easy.

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The same applies for stuff that you don't want to do, you know, put it out of sight. So as some of the listeners I'm sure are aware, I am quite short. I'm five foot one. I know. Good things come in small packages and all that shit.

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So occasionally, if I have got something very delicious in the house that I cannot control myself around. For me, it's Dorset cereals, granola, I'm not endorsed by them in any way.

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But you know, if they want to send me some free boxes, I'm not going to turn that down.

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But what I have to do is put them on quite a high shelf in the kitchen out of sight and not easily accessible for me unless I bring my special little stool into the kitchen to reach them. So that kind of works the other way around, set up your environment for success.

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Make the healthy choice, the obvious one wherever you happen to be.

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So my next tip, do one thing, do something, do fucking anything, because anything is better than doing nothing.

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I know, you're probably the same as me moping around on the sofa. Having a bit of a duvet day is really easy when your mojo has just got up and gone. For me as well, I am super lucky to be able to add perfectionism into this mix.

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So, you know, dragging my heels and not starting things because you know, what's the point?

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I feel like shit and also it's not gonna be perfect. Like, that's really the easy option for me.

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So I always tend to think oh, you know what difference will doing one thing make.

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It turns out, you know, when I stopped being a little dickhead and pulled my positive pants on and committed to doing just one thing every day, it actually makes a really big difference.

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Do something anything every day, just get up and do something that moves you closer towards your goals.

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The next point I think is really important. And it's something that I see happen a lot with my clients. And that is knowing your purpose without getting, you know, too deep here, because I'm a bit of a zero woowoo person in case you hadn't figured that out.

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But you know, without getting all philosophical and shit, you need to know what your purpose is, you know, what's your version of success?

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A lot of my clients that I coached through the lockdown, and the pandemic, a lot of them ended up - Yes, I know, I hate the word - 'pivoting' into different businesses.

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They had to do that, because, you know, they couldn't earn money in the way that they were pre pandemic.

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And, you know, they ended up doing shit not because it was their purpose, that they loved it because they had to, to survive.

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So I think spending some time to get back to thinking about what your purpose is, you know, maybe pre pandemic, you thought your purpose was to be in a really amazing corporate job. And now you realise that fuck it out, no one's got time for that.

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So maybe you think your purpose is setting up a business or whatever that is. But I know that if you bob along in life, doing random shit, you know, you won't feel fulfilled.

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So if you can find your purpose, your sort of reason for getting up in the morning and getting all excited and stuff that is going to help you get your mojo back.

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And finally, I guess one other point, challenge yourself.

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I think the past two years have been quite a fraught experience for everyone, we've had to be incredibly reactive rather than proactive, which isn't a very positive experience for anyone.

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So I think setting yourself a challenge, something that you can get excited about that you can plan. Something that's new, you've never done before, you know, that will give you something to get excited about again.

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So maybe you can do an amazing physical challenge or a new project will that will get your creative or mental juices flowing again, or connecting with new people, places and experiences. And that can help build your mental resilience as well.

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So yeah, that's just a short solo episode from me. I'm not sure how I feel about these solo episodes, I find them more difficult than when I'm talking to someone else.

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Let me know what you think of my solo episodes. Thank you so much for listening.

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I really appreciate you being here and listening to my top tips for regaining your special sauce.

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If you've got any more tips that you want to share, let me know you can find me on all the socials that are in the show notes.

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Let me know if there's anything that you else that you'd like me to talk about. But until the next episode, I will once again say thank you for listening and speak to you soon.

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